The price of ‘love’

This may be a “stretch” for a proverbial health column but it does very much play into several health venues. It spans emotional, physical and spiritual venues.

The price for “having someone” should actually be non-existent. To have the right person in your life should not require sacrifice (necessarily) of any kind…especially “peace of mind,” health, job or career, and most of all, your loving service to God and/or your place in heaven. It has taken me years and two husbands to figure this out, but, as they say, “Better late than never!”

Society, the media and everything in between and outside dictates and brainwashes us into conscious and subliminal thinking that we are “incomplete” without dating someone, being in a relationship or married. This idea isn’t even biblically based—in the Bible, Paul basically states to get married as a prevention or remedy to fornication. That seems like kind of a pitiful reason for getting married and in many cases that still doesn’t work!

For those of you who are “down and out” or gloomy about not having someone in their lives, PLEASE snap out of it! There are far worse things in life. Being “unequally” yoked is miserable, and believe me there are many “unequals” out there!

Just to name a very few, there is…unequal passion, unequal love, unequal sense of humor, unequal work ethics, unequal human and animal compassion, unequal communication skills/desires, unequal ability to show respect and then the worst (for me) is unequal ability to fear, respect and obey God and His Good Book. And for an old fashioned, world detesting gal like me—a Tik Tok, Google or social media addiction won’t work either!

No matter how great of an example you are, no matter how bright your light may shine, you cannot pour the love for God and what He has done and continues to do for us into a syringe and inject it into another’s heart and mind.

I grew up with an unrealistic premise. My mother had two husbands and the first (my blood father) died when I was six months old in a hunting accident. He was outfielder and second baseman for the St. Louis Cardinals. The second husband, engineer for Conoco Oil and the father who raised me, was the brother of my biological father and two years older. They were both raised in a home where there was no church attendance. They knew nothing other than there was a God. Soon after each one started dating Mom, they immediately stopped their “worldly” ways and became stellar members of the New Testament Church and never looked back, not even once. Of course, that made me think that all men (husbands) would be of the same mindset—to be adequately curious about their creator, learn about him, then be baptized and want to try their best to please Him, but my dads were in the vast minority, come to find out. I was most fortunate to have had them.

For those who feel compelled to possess “another half” (like you can’t be whole within yourself), when searching, just make certain that they possess the exact same values as yourself, otherwise you will be making many sacrifices that can and will lead to heartbreak and unhappiness.

My advice is to stay busy with happy and creative past times. There are so many to choose from, and you may discover more God given talents along the way and then have even MORE for which to be thankful!

And to those who chose wisely along the way and have had a great marriage, you are so applauded! Be proud and don’t be shy about passing along your tips for a happy existence.